Partner on pof?

[ChocolateCupcake123]

Really struggling here!

Been with my partner for about 8 months, everything is really good. We spend every evening together, except when he’s working late.

A friend just called me to say she’s seen him “online” on plenty of fish regularly over the past few months. She didn’t want to say anything because she thought it might just be the app running in the background on his phone. (I know he was previously online dating).

She’s just noticed that his profile picture has changed, though apparently it’s one of the photos already on his profile, just a new “front photo” or whatever it’s called.

Any explanation other than playing away? I really don’t want to believe he’d do this

He might be just addicted to it as a PP said.

If you want to continue the relationship, just ask him nicely to delete the app and delete the accounts - it takes seconds to do so just get him to do it. He shouldn't have any need to keep them.

If he refuses, then that's an issue

He's looking over his shoulder to see if anything better comes along. Are you not worth better than that?

Not wanting to worry you, but I did have a previous partner who kept appearing online and they claimed it was running in the background.... no it wasn't.... I logged into their account (guessed the password) and they were messaging....

But they were also gaslighters, emotional abuse etc etc, so not a relationship worth saving

He's only with you until someone better comes along.

I'd bin him off if I were you.

If he was happy and satisfied in the relationship he wouldn't want to be making another account just because he can't log in.

Yeah it only shows online a few hours after someone has been on it.

I think deep down you know he is up to no good - why would you still have the app if you're in an 8 month relationship? Absolutely no need.

If I were you I would have set up a fake account and tried to catch him out. Now you've told him you've seen he's been on it, he's giving you any excuse he can and will have covered his tracks.

Basically up to you to believe him or not. Definitely doesn't sound like a healthy relationship if you spend every night together.

Oh dear. You've only been together 8 months. I'd be cutting my losses now. I don't buy his explanation AT ALL. He thinks you're stupid.

I think if it’s true, then you need to bin him off. Seeing every night is crazy as well, you’ve made yourself too available & he has no respect.
See your friends & move on, your better than this

""""Only one plausible explanation... I've met guys who just can't seem to kick in there POF obsession even when a decent woman is staring them in the face"""

This - sadly.