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When did you get engaged and how did it happen?

42 replies

Youngmystery · 05/12/2017 16:55

Curious really.

I am not engaged currently. Was engaged to my ex after a large amount of begging from him, but no marriage happened thank god, he was an awful person and I managed to escape.

My current boyfriend and I have talked about marriage and that we want to be married to each other some day although not now. Some day we will get engaged, I don't mind when really, kind of feels like we kind of are but it's not 'formally' done with rings you know?

So what about everyone else?

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ImogenTubbs · 05/12/2017 21:45

Together a couple of years. Had talked about the future but not marriage specifically. DH started talking about how he wasn't sure that marriage was ever a good idea, etc, etc, but it was a ruse, the cheeky git. Two weeks later he got down on one knee in the snow and proposed. I was surprised. I said yes.

Joysmum · 05/12/2017 21:46

We’d had an argument. He was being a complete wanker and we were on a cease fire laid on sofas facing each other trying to watch the telly whilst seething. I looked over at him and my heart melted. He was a wanker but he was my wanker and I couldn’t imagine ever wanting to be without him.

I went over, got on one knee and asked him to marry me. He said yes and he’s been my wanker and I’ve been his bitch for 23 years now. Didn’t bother with an engagement ring but the only piece of jewelry we both wear is our wedding rings.

Joskar · 05/12/2017 22:18

Hogmanay. I'd just got back to my flat that evening after a mammoth journey over land and sea and through snow. Made moules et frites for a very late tea. Bit tiddly on fizz at about 11ish. Sitting on the sofa chatting about the wedding we'd be going to on the 5th at which he was to be best man:

Him- so what would you say if someone asked you to marry them?
Me- it would depend who asked.
Him- what if I asked?
Me- I'd probably say yes.
Him- well then will we get married?
Me- aye, ok.

Married in August but didn't actually move in together until the following February. Didn't like to rush into anything...

MrsBartlettforthewin · 05/12/2017 22:48

Been together a year to the day. He'd taking me out to celebrate our one year then we went for a moonlit walk on the beach. I was admiring the full moon turned round to find him on one knee with a ring. Between my sobs I managed to squeak out a yes, 8 months later we were married. This was 13 years ago last month.

Myheartbelongsto · 05/12/2017 23:33

He kept shouting from the kitchen did I want a cheese sandwich and I was shouting back from the sofa that I didn't.

He came in with a plate and said how about just some cheese then. I looked down and spelt out will you marry me in cheese.

Second one asked me when we were out with friends and I was Irish dancing. He told me I was absolutely glowing and asked me to marry him.

Third one was after an argument and I married him. Worst mistake of my life!

rachrach2 · 05/12/2017 23:49

It was 5 months to the day of meeting and we had just been out for dinner - I got something ready to watch on tv back at home and he went upstairs - came back down to the living room and got straight down on one knee and asked me. It wasn’t a total surprise as we had discussed it but wasn’t expecting it that evening! 6 years and 2 children later and we are both still very happy and in love.

TammySwansonTwo · 06/12/2017 13:27

We had been together a couple of years and I threw him an epic 30th birthday party which involved trawling his Facebook for all the friends I didn't know / hadn't yet met along with our joint friends - I think that's when he decided to propose.

A couple of weeks later I got a panicked phone call from him saying I'd locked him in the flat and accidentally taken his keys (doh) and he really really needed to get out to meet a friend so I had to go home and take them to him. He was acting really strange and I thought he was up to something. A few weeks later we went on our first trip together (Paris), and he proposed to me on the first day, on a little bridge, it was lovely. Turns out that day with the keys he was meeting my sister to go ring shopping. Whoops.

salsamad · 06/12/2017 13:45

I had popped in to see my 'DH', who had been my boyfriend for 6 mths, on my way home from an intense step class, so I was rather red faced and sweaty, greasy hair plastered to my head. My 'DH' had just got in from a hectic days work and he was rather dirty from working on a large commercial boiler.
I was standing at his Mums kitchen sink getting myself a drink of water and when I turned around he was down on one knee by the sink unit holding out a solitaire diamond ring with a cheeky grin on his grimey face. We had briefly talked about living together and possibly getting married but this proposal was a suprise - he'd sold his car to buy the ring .
We've been together for over 24 years and next year will be our 23rd Wedding Anniversary. I love him so much it hurts and he truly is a wonderful man and my best friend .

Isthismummy · 06/12/2017 16:36

DH got down on one knee in a giant Ferris wheel overlooking Vienna in December 2016. We married six months later

FooFighter99 · 06/12/2017 16:49

Had been with DH (then DP) for 3.5 years. Always knew it was heading there as I'd made it clear from day 1 that I wanted marriage and kids (he has a DD from his first marriage).

I'd had my wisdom tooth out in hospital and DH made me put it under my pillow for the "tooth fairy", which he then swapped with a diamond ring that I'd inherited when my Grandma died - he didn't actually ask me or get down on one knee, just left the ring for me to find and that was that .

That was in the March and we found out I was pregnant a month or so later so we planned a hasty wedding and were married that August

6 years later and he's still the love of my life and my best friend

amusedbush · 06/12/2017 17:32

We were 24, had known each other 3 years, been together for 2.

I've told the story before so apologies if you've seen it!

I knew he had a ring and had a rough idea of when he'd do it because we had a winter trip to NYC booked. The holiday dragged on and no ring emerged. On the second last day it was bitterly cold but he insisted on taking a walk through Central Park. I huffed and moaned the whole way around because I wanted to look at the dinosaurs in the natural history museum

We got to Shakespeare Garden and we were looking at the flowers and little signs with Shakespeare quotes on them. DH read one out loud and commented how lovely it was. I launched into a really boring monologue about how inappropriate it was to have Romeo and Juliet quotes in such a pretty garden because the play isn't a romance and that Shakespeare was taking the piss out of lovers, saying that they'd follow each other blindly to their doom.

I got off my soapbox stopped talking and he was on one knee with a ring, looking at me like

I said yes, obviously. We got married in NYC 18 months later, but decided against Shakespeare Garden for the ceremony

amusedbush · 06/12/2017 17:33

FooFighter99

That's lovely! What a fun way to propose.

MissConductUS · 06/12/2017 18:49

amusedbush I had not heard your story before, and it's charming, so thank you for retelling it. And I commend you on finding Shakespeare Garden - few tourists find it and even a lot of NY'ers don't know it except as the site of the summer Shakespeare in the Park performances in the summer.

Did you ever make it to the MNH to see the dinosaurs and where did you have the wedding?

amusedbush · 07/12/2017 07:16

MissConductUS

Thank you

We had the ceremony at the Ladies Pavilion and yes, I finally saw the dinosaurs earlier this year

Peanutbuttercheese · 07/12/2017 09:37

I have been engaged 3 times but broke off the first two.

First I was just far too young and was still a teenager, second showed some awful behaviour and it was a lucky escape.

Third time lucky, and I turned him down the first two times he asked as wanted to concentrate on my career plus I didn't want dc.

Knowing it could be forever scared me I hadn't felt that with the other two though I had felt in love.

DH and I had been back to his old college for an event we then had a few days at his gt grandparents house in the middle of nowhere. He asked me as we laid together on the lawn on a sunny afternoon. We stayed in that house for three days telling no one with no contact at all, this is when mobile phones were rare and the place was isolated so no signal anyway. We then travelled to the nearest city and chose a ring together.

Those three days were very special. Laying in front of a real fire at night, chopping wood, walking through the forest and seeing not another living soul.

SleveMcDichael · 07/12/2017 09:44

We had talked about marriage - theoretically and then practically. Over time t became established that we'd be getting married one day - talk of the future in terms of "when we're married". One day we had a conversation about when we'd actually get married, figured it could either be on x years after certain professional things had settled down, or we could just do it the next summer. We decided on the next summer! He offered to buy me a ring but it seemed a bit stagey and fake given that we'd already decided. I've never understood the point of engagement rings!

So then we got married. Sorted.

GrapesAreMyJam · 07/12/2017 09:50

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