Not buying him a 60th gift

[CurlyRover]

As I said on my PP, my parents and I have essentially been NC for a few months. (Long back story there)

It's my father's 60th in January. I'm going to be completely disowned if I don't get him anything aren't I? I know they'll be expecting something but tbh the fact I haven't heard from them in several months doesn't particularly make me want to spend a lot of money on them. I know it sounds selfish but DP and I are buying a house after Christmas so I'd rather save my cash for that and for people who actually care. Am I going to be disowned forever?

Would it be a bad thing if you were? Sounds like a blessing to me.

I think gamer it's a really difficult thing for me to get my head around. After years and years of difficulties it just seems so final.

Do you want to see them again or do you just think that you ought to want to see them again?

Have you had a birthday in the time since you last spoke to them? If so, what did they do for that?

Not had a birthday in between brilliant and I honestly can't remember what they did for my last birthday.

Billy that's an interesting question. Partially I think I should want to see them but partially I want to see them as the parents I think I needed them to be - which yeah I know isn't happening.