Spending time together

[gillys]

On average, how many evenings are you & your partner at home together and what about weekends, together or apart doing separate things ?

We have unlimited cinema cards so we go out (maybe monthly we go out to eat before a film) a couple of times a week and at least once a weekend.

We both work full time and maybe fortnightly will go for a drink after work but otherwise we are together all the time.

Usually together 5 evenings a week and most of the weekend, we are soppy though and our dc are teenagers who don't need us as much.
When they were tiny I needed more time alone, because the dc needed me more.

We do occasional city breaks apart, with a friend.

We are together pretty much all the time (married, obviously living together with small children). I take a yoga class one evening a week for 2 hours and he might have one night away every month or two (his friends don't live close enough for just an evening out, 1-2 hours away, so he goes and stays with them for the night if they are doing anything). We both have a few weekends away each year, him more than me (maybe 4) because his friends are a bit more child-less than mine. I might go away for the weekend twice a year. We rarely spend weekends apart otherwise unless one of us is working. For me, it's really important that we don't lead separate lives, so we don't do the whole 'I get one day a weekend and you get the other' and we don't have regular nights out with friends anymore just because our friends are far away and past the age of big nights out. When we do see them, more often than not they come to stay with us for the weekend and we have dinner and drinks at home. Obviously, this is going to be very different depending on where you are in life. When we were dating, we might have spent 5 nights a week together, or only 2.

*And by "we're together all the time" I mean evenings and weekends. We both work full-time, so we aren't like actually together ALL THE TIME. Thank god.

Generally 1 evening together during the week from 10pm until we go to bed. All weekend together unless one of us has plans.

We're usually doing stuff together 3 or 4 nights during the week with 1 or 2 apart reading or listening to podcasts.