Anyone else here whose dh hates Christmas including family gathering and New Years Eve?

[Snafu1988]

How do you cope?

It doesn't sound like he's feeling sorry for himself more that he's struggling to accept his hearing loss. Could he be depressed?

Mine does!

I leave him to it.

If he doesn't want to come, I don't make him.
If he wants to leave early, that's fine,

It's much easier that way as I will have a better time not looking at his sulky face 😂

It used to bother me and cause rows but it doesn't anymore!

I do insist on nye and Christmas with my family but as long as he is there for dinner/presents and for midnight on nye I don't mind if he slips of inbetween 👍🏼

Dh hates Christmas, but we just ignore him and enjoy it. We always spend it with both sets of extended family and he's actually perfectly sociable once we're there, enjoys the food etc. He mostly objects to the massive build-up and fuss leading up to it, plus the enforced expense.

My DH refuses to use the word Christmas yet loves presents and asks me what I want for "winter holidays" 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

I feel quite sorry for him. I think his issues with it are perfectly understandable. I know other people with hearing loss who also struggle in group situations (hearing aids don't solve this problem) as they can't hear what people are saying and it can be very isolating.

I don't have hearing loss and find dealing with large groups of people really hard. I would hate it if dh wanted a large family Christmas and New year's every year. Can't you come to a compromise and agree to have a mix or rotation of family Christmas and quite ones at home? I don't see why he shouldn't be allowed to have his preference sometimes as well.

Snafu are you my DW?

Totally agree with Biglybadgers.

Hearing loss doesn't necessarily mean you can't hear noise, but that sounds like conversion blurs into one messy 'fuzz'. He's obviously feeling a bit crap about himself and presuming his family are looking down on him jobwise.
Maybe more smaller gatherings over a longer period?
I don't enjoy xmas either. Too much fake family intimacy in situations i would not choose to have if it wasn't 'the season'. Create your traditions that you will both enjoy.

We spend a lot of time a home especially in the winter months and to be honest I do not enjoy it very much. Looking for things we can do, for ways to enjoy it or ways to cope.

May be I do not have enough fantasy but I often cannot come up with things we can do at home and he is just so much into TV those days.

You know, maybe I should ask people who got hearing loss.

He was diagnosed with mental health stuff and I have been talking with people whose husbands have mental health stuff too and it was helpful... but maybe I should have talked to people whose husband was short of hearing (or people who are short of hearing themselves). I heard that the s morons if being short of hearing can mimick mental health problems. I did start to do some research a while ago but then I stopped because of kack of time and because people kept telling me „no, that‘s mental health stuff. Has nothing to do with him being short of hearing“.

BTW his family does not look down on him because if his job, he holds a good job just in another career field. That is just in his head.

Thanks for the answers.