I have a 22 month old son with my partner of 5 years. He has specified that this year he wants us to only spend £20 on each other as X Mas is now about our son and we buy what we want for ourselves anyway. I find this attitude quite sad as it feels like now we have had our son we will not be making an effort with each other anymore. It doesn't feel very romantic. At the same time I feel silly as when I mentioned it to my partner again he said he doesn't know why I'm getting so worried about it as he hasn't given it much thought. What are other people's experiences around this issue post having kids? Any thoughts are appreciated.