Feel like husband only wants me for sex

[driedflowers]

I feel like an object sometimes. We used to have sex a lot, at least twice a day. I didn't always want to but felt like I had to. But he just keeps pestering me, and to be honest I'm exhausted and a bit depressed (pnd) and it makes me feel like not having it as much.

So I turn him down and he makes it clear he isn't happy and gives me a hard time. It just makes me feel bad, and leads to all sorts of tension. Is this normal after having a baby?

The whole thing isnt normal ! Physical intimacy should be a mutually agreed and shared experience and not some guy just bullying and using you.

I don't have any rl support, couple of friends but couldn't talk to them about this

It's not normal at all. I had a baby a few months ago and don't want sex that much tbh. If my dp does and I don't then i explain I'm not up for it and he's fine with that no making me feel bad in fact quite the opposite. My God wouldn't he rather you be into it and want to have sex with him rather than knowing you're not enjoying it? How can he get off know If you're not into it at all. Horrible.

I feel really sad for you having to deal with this and having a baby ECT. Look after yourself op!

I didn't always want to but felt like I had to.

He's a pig.

Do you have any family anywhere?

No one I can go to. My mum is dead. My dad and I don't talk. Anyway I don't want to leave or anything, I just feel a bit uncomfortable and strange.

Its not normal at all at any stage of a relationship - being pestered all the time and made to feel crap for saying no or feeling like you should say yes is pretty depressing and grim dried flowers - no actually its abusive. Deal breaker for me - have you told him how you feel?

He probably dosent realize that after childbirth women aren't as fond of making babes or practicing even - he needs a bit of education and prolly what his right had can also be used for;!.

I've told him, but I feel like he doesn't take me seriously at all.

no he is a sex pest

Tell him there is nothing less sexually attractive to a woman than a man pestering for sex and then sulking if he doesn't get his own way.

So the more he pesters and sulks, the less he'll get.

So if you don't want to leave, are you prepared to stand up to him?

It doesn't get you anywhere nanny, tbh

He doesn't give up. You can be up hours fighting him off.

There is a name for that the police would be very interested in

Oh flowers, it’s not okay at all and you sound very unhappy.

You don’t have to stay with him. I don’t know why you’d want to.

There are always options, you don’t have to live like this. If you literally mean fighting him off then it sounds a lot like he’s trying to have sex with you against your will. Which is rape. Which is a crime.

I do have to stay with him, because i don't have anywhere to go to. And young children.

That's not cool. Me and mine havnt had sex since ours was born (5 months ago) and we used to have it loads too. . After a baby your hormones are completely different, your body isn't thinking :let's get horny to have sex to make babies! " it's going "alllllll ll attention on the survival of the new born! All focus on this!" Which I'd similar to the hormonal changed in the menopause! Plus it can hurt/be uncomfortable to have sex after a baby not to mention how much you need sleep. Mention the hormonal shite to at least sound serious. he's being very selfish to want that sort of attention with a baby around xxxx

Ok..you need to tell him what you have said to us...you are exhausted and tired ...Some men are idiotic at times but this is his family his children and you are his wife...do you want to stay with him?

Hours that’s awful what the rest of the relationship like you sound so ground down

Can I ask how long you have not been speaking to your dad, is it before you met him or after?

Sexual coercion explained. There's always somewhere to go - Women's Aid would support you.

Pestering you daily for sex for hours when you are not interested is abusive. A loving man understands that your sex drive can be low after having a baby.

No one needs to be a sex pest, OP's husband can sort himself out. Pestering his wife for sex when she doesn't want it is a display of dominance.

No one needs to feel lucky for having to deal with a sex pest. No wonder she feels odd. Having sex when you don't want it causes you to feel disconnected from your self.

OP, please talk to your health visitor and Womens Aid, and get some support.

I'm sorry OP, but I think you need to contact Women's Aid to figure out how you can get out of this relationship. He'll break you mentally by carrying on like this.