How many of you still feel hurt after divorce?

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I've been divorced for 6 months (it was husbands decision as he went off with a much younger woman and immediately had a baby). Our marriage wasn't great but after many, many years of marriage, I do wonder if the pain will ever go? Friends seem to think I should be well "over it" by now, but knowing that the ex in laws etc are visiting the "new family" it still really hurts.

Anyone else still feel that pain?

You are grieving.
We all grieve at different rates.
It took me a good year to get back to 'me'
Even now, 8+ years on from separation, I feel sad about it all sometimes.
But not often.
You don't have to be 'over' anything.
This is your life, your way of coping.

Take all the time you need and be kind to yourself.

I’m not hurting for myself but for my girls who in essence, have lost their dad.
Like you, he left me for a much younger woman (cliche!!) but it was a good move for me as I now feel free (did hurt the way he did it tho but that says more about him than me)
He’s a selfish, narcissist but I can’t change that, just accept it and move on with my life which I’m enjoying.
It takes time but try to be kind to yourself.

Your friends think you should be ‘well over’ a divorce only 6 months later?!

What kind of friends are these?!

Five years down the line from the divorce here after being together for 30 years, twenty of them married.

I stopped having feelings for cheating exH pretty quickly as it became clear he had cheated pretty much all the way though (yup I am officially unobservant) but do I still feel sad I wasted my youth and had children with such an arse? - yes and I suspect that feeling is here to stay.

4 years on still hurting same situation much younger ow baby seems happy so so hard but does get a bit easier just underlying sadness.midlife crisis cliche seems to be so common sadly.xx