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the long long saga with the ex ..

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JoshHommesWife · 27/11/2017 21:03

I was in a relationship this year with someone who can only be described as a narcissist - very charming, attractive, compulsive liar, mocked people for kindness, told me frequently i was not his priority, had the shortest temper where he smash up the flat if i did something "annoying".

After the breakup I was kinda pathetic, agreed to be his friend as he was "going through a hard time".

He actually finished with me days before my birthday, a week before i was meant to move into his, and when i was suffering a very poor spell of mental health. Ultimately he left me homeless, alone and ultimately I dropped out of my PhD because of the poor mental health.

Anyway, i was stupid and continued seeing him. This gave him opportunity to constantly tell me how much he missed me, loved me, etc. I was sad so it kind of helped. We split a month or so ago, seen each other over ten times. I've slept at his house 4 time - most recently for sex this weekend (but not the other three times were we just cuddled).

I feel yesterday i saw him finally for what he was - a horrible person. He's basically getting all the perks of a relationship - someone to lean on emotionally and sex on tap, without having to commit - in his words at the start of the relationship "a part time boyfriend".

I sent him a text telling him I wanted no more contact with him, and basically for him to leave me alone.

He's waited a day to text me back this

"Okay babe. Just had the worst day from work! I am knackered, looked like a madman running around the office looking for something to do"

He's basically ignored me. I'm fuming! Obviously I need to ignore him, but I want to say FUCK OFF YOU WANKER I TOLD YOU. It's like he's just like yeah whatever you can't do that He's also just sent me a picture of us two on holiday this year ...

Anyone had experiences of this and any advice????

OP posts:
harrypotternerd · 27/11/2017 21:49

best bet would go NC, you deserve so much better. I tried for 4 years with a man like that years ago and it doesn't end well.

Gemini69 · 27/11/2017 21:55

Block.... the end Flowers

OnTheRise · 28/11/2017 08:11

Don't respond to his message. Block his number. You're done.

WhoWants2Know · 28/11/2017 08:18

Yep, easily done. No need to row or tell him anything. Block him on social media and your phone. Job done.

TheNaze73 · 28/11/2017 08:23

Block him, he’s really not got your interests at heart & has you right where he wants you

0ccamsRazor · 28/11/2017 08:24

Block him on all communication means, be prepared to phone the police if he turns up in person or if he becomes threatening.

Do not engage with him.

ShatnersWig · 28/11/2017 08:25

Unanimous advice will be - quite rightly - block the fucker.

You need no other advice.

pollythedolly · 28/11/2017 08:33

Because it’s all about him!

Block, delete, live. Flowers

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