Chances of salvaging love but not 'in love' situ?

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I mean its abit more complicated than that and im probably clutching at straws but i am curious to know if any couples have gotten past that old cliche.
I dont even know what it means to be honest.

Some background though. .we have been separated since Feb. Hes in a relationship. But hasnt filed for divorce. i know hes not 100% sure hes doing the right thing, and i think he wants me to know that as he posts cryptic things SM. We have 2 young DS and i know he misses them, he says he cries whenevr he leaves but feels that its too late to go back. Always says being apart is 'the right thing to do'. He cheated on me and he says he cant forgive himself for that. Was a one night stand. Says i deserve better ect. Hes not a bad person and i really dont think hes trying to play games. He told my sister that he loves me so much but hes not in love. But he still finds me attractive. So im just confused by it all. I cant move on because i am still so in love with him and we get on so well.
Youll probably tell me to move on and i have tried but how can i when we still love each other.

Fancying you is not the same as loving you. He says he doesn't want to be with you, slept with someone else and is now in another relationship?

He is playing you, I assume you are sleeping together?

Get rid. He is keeping you on a piece of elastic and you are falling for all his BS.

No we dont sleep together. His guard is way up and i think he genuinely doesnt want to hurt me again but because we have beem getting on so well now the dust has settled hes doubting whether it was right for us to split. I spose thats not good enough anyway and shouldnt settle with someone being unsure but i cant help it.

Look at his actions rather than just listening to his words. He may be giving it all this hand wringing about not being sure in order to keep you on the back burner in case it doesn’t work out with the new girlfriend, but he’s still choosing her over you every day.

You will both have more respect for you if you tell him you’ve had enough and are moving on.

Whilst he’s off having another relationship he’s saying these things perhaps so that you don’t go off and meet someone new - like the above keeping you as option b incase the new gf doesn’t work out and he’s left alone.

You are not option b. It’s hard. Tell him to stop playing mind games and grow up. I hope it works out for you, it’s hard as you can’t just turn off your feelings.

I know thats true, i think its just the kids that is making him sad. Hes quite happy with his gf its very convenient for him financially. He wants to forget what hes done and start a clean slate with her. But surely it shouldnt be so hard for him if it was the right thing to do. I read into the way he words things too much. Maybe after xmas try to distance myself from him because im back at square one but since spending more time together hes having second thoughts. Hes a coward really, too scared to fix the mistakes.

I think he does want me to meet someone else because then itd be final in his mind. But im just not interested in anyone else. Im 27 and get asked out alot but he is all i want for me and my babies who miss him alot. Its so shit