So me and my bf have been together for just over a year. We have a really good relationship and I love him to pieces but recently he’s been lying to me. It’s nothing major, usually when he goes out with friends but I’m now stuck because I feel like I can’t forgive him.
It first started a few months ago when it was our 1 year anniversary. We had booked to go away for the weekend but the night before he told me he was going to the pub ‘for a few’ with his friends. We have a good relationship where going out with friends is not a problem as long as we let each other know when the other is home. I found out through a friend he got home about 4 in the morning but I hadn’t heard from him since 11pm. The next morning (the day we’re going away) he tells me he had a few beers and left the pub at midnight and went straight home. Obviously I knew this was a lie so asked him outright. He said he forgot he went back to his friends house after the pub and then he got s taxi back home. It turned out he was so drunk he didn’t remember the night even though he told me he’d only had a few. We still ended up going away, he was hungover, throwing up everywhere and it was ruined. What hurt the most was the fact it wasn’t just a normal weekend, it was our anniversary and he let me down. Now the most recent one was Saturday, his friend was throwing a surprise party for his girlfriends 21st and we were both invited. My bf told me he didn’t want to go because it was more of a family thing and i wasn’t fussed as I didn’t really know them. We planned to have s night in instead. So Saturday comes and we have an argument in the morning whixh he caused for no reason. So we didn’t talk and later that day he asked if I wanted to see him which I said no because I was still angry. At 7:30 (everyone had to be there by 8) he messages to say ‘if I go to this party you’re still more than welcome to come’ So that annoyed me due to him saying he didn’t want to, I asked him constantly if he wanted to go and he didn’t. At 10pm he tells me he went to the party but has only been there for 20 minutes and he’ll be leaving soon. That hurt me a lot because he knew how annoyed I was yet he still went. At 1am he’s still there. On Sunday I sees him and we managed to sort things out, he went to the party because he didn’t want to sit in feeling shit, I still don’t agree with him going but we have to move on but a couple of things that was said didn’t add up so I asked him. It turned out he was at the party from 8:15 (he asked me at 7:30 I could go if he decided to go, he was already on his way) when he told me he’d got there around 9:45. He told me he was staying for a bit and got home at 2am. I am really disappointed and feel completely let down by this. I know it’s nothing huge but he’s still lied to me.
Am I overreacting and how do I try and sort this out ?
TIA