How to leave

[TheBug]

I’m at a point where I think I need to leave my ‘nice’ but utterly hopeless DP. Years of accommodating his way of living life has left me anxious, depressed and isolated. I’m waiting to start counselling in the new year.

My question, if anyone with experience is able to help: My name is on the mortgage and presumably the deeds of a property, so technically I own property (though I earn little and therefore don’t contribute to the mortgage).

Will this stop me being able to access social housing? If so, are there alternatives for people in this situation? I don’t earn enough to rent privately.

So you aren't married?
Are you in England?
Do you have DC?
Get a free half hour with a local solicitor and see where you stand with regard to the property.
How long have you both owned the property?
You can contact CAB to find out about housing, benefits, etc....

Not married, have DC. Owned the property for five years.

He’s ‘nice’, everyone thinks so; he wouldn’t deny me half the assets but he doesn’t want the relationship to end. He sometimes says he’ll ‘think about what’s best’, but never comes back with anything.

He is how he is, and I accept he’ll never change. I can’t live with the stress of it any more.

I’m sorry, I should have said thank you for responding. I’m in a rush before collecting DC.

I don’t want any of the assets, I want to live my life but I guess I may have to want them in order to leave.

He sometimes says he’ll ‘think about what’s best’
Who cares?
It's what YOU think is best for YOU and your DC that matters here.
I would suggest getting the assets that are owed to you, more for your DC future than anything else.
See a solicitor and take it from there.
Stop waiting for him.