Quick background... Yesterday I had a word with dp about how I find him so 'standoff'ish' with me all the time, he can't take a joke and constantly sees me as some kind of threat. I put this down to emotionally immature.
Fast forward to 10 minutes ago, dog ran to the letterbox to snatch the post, I picked the post up in time and then dog snapped to the post in my hand but caught my hand... "Dog's name, NO!" DP said "what's happened?" I said "dog's name bit me by accident" his reply was "bite the fucker back then" I said "what are you talking about?"(as in like dont be mad!) His reply was "I'm only joking, now who can't take a joke?" (Referring to our conversation yesterday about him not being able to take a joke) I looked at him and said "don't try that one with me!" He said it was a joke fuck off and stormed out.
Basically I understand in some abusive relationships people say awful things and then mask it and wiggle out of it with "I'm only joking". He has been abusive in the past I must add.
I'm genuinely fuming. How dare he talk about my furbaby like this!! We've been together almost 2 years just to add. I know he's wrong but how do I handle this? He will use the I'm only joking to mask this, he can pull the other one. Is there a name for this type of tactic? I see it as manipulation.