If you wanted to improve your libido...

[McDreamy]

..what would you do? DH and I are having a few problems in that department Bit at a loss as to what to do. My libido is rock bottom and his...well isn't! Feeling a bit down about it.

I tried some of the herbs you get at health food shops, they (ahem) seem to work for me.

Wild Oats and Damiana, I think.

Don't wait til; you go to bed. Do it as soon as the kids are asleep. I'm much more up for it if I'm not wanting to crawl into bed and sleep for a week.

Not so easy if your SN child doesn't drop off till 1am after 3 hours of screaming and your undercariage hasn't recovered from the birth 3 years ago!
All I want to do is sleep.

I only seem to want to do it at two in the afternoon which isn't terribly practical. I shall certainly try the wild oats thing. (Oh God, its going to feel like being a teenager buying condoms for the first time).

this might sound a bit wierd, but since i've started exercising i've been feeling a lot more horny. I've not lost loads of weight, only a few pounds, so it's not that - i think i just feel a bit fitter and bit proud of myself for shifting my (still) fat arse!

ok, my libido hit rock bottom. Not sudden. Over long time, gradually wanted less & less to the point I was happy never to have sex again. Avoided it. Became big problem as dh not only wasn't getting it, but he also decided I didn't love/fancy him any more. Was BIG problem. But I couldn't seem to change it. Or really want to.

The I decided to go for it. I stopped taking the pill. Dh always against, as he doesn't like condoms, but I was sure it was affecting my libido. My word, the difference is amazing. Really.
I tried damiana before but didn't make any difference, but I'd read about maca so deicided to give that a go. I got it in capsules, but now got it in loose powder and
So I stopped taking pill and started taking maca.

Result? Major randiness. Been at it like rabbits. sorry. Seem to be having sex twice a day at the moment. Dh can't believe it. I always forced myself to have sex once a month, cos I'd feel too guilty knowing period come round again and no nookie, so we were probably having it off once a month, sometimes twice in a 'good' month for ages, and I only did it cos I forced myself & I was glad of the darkness so he couldn't see my face, more miserable than ecstatic. But now neither of us can believe the difference. I'd say 90% was no pill but the maca seems to have general all round benefits, not just libido.

Also, I have bought a couple of rude books. I read, when trying to solve my problem, that the more orgasms you have the more you want. I can't say I normally have many of these, so I am considering buying a rabbit. I've never had a 'toy' before, but read on here threads where they seem to be highly recommended.

In general, not just trying to get more active in bedroom, but trying to think about sex more and breathe some life back into it. So I've got me books, maybe get a toy, only lacy undies from now on.

Agree also with not waiting till bed time. We'd go to bed, read for a while then dh would try and initiate and I'd moan that it'd gone 11 and if he'd wanted some 'fun' maybe he should've mentioned it a bit earlier and that it was much too late for that carry on! poor bloke. Now I'm not bothered if it's late, but also leap on him the minute the kids are in bed.

Now he's a bit alarmed I've turned into an insatiable nympho. Hope it carries on.