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Not a relationship but I'd like it to be...

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WishIwasanastronaut · 25/11/2017 21:42

Mega-confused, impatient, frustrated here and don't know how to fix it. if I give you some background, can you tell me what you think?
Sorry this is vague by the way.
I have the sexiest trainer ever for a sport I do as a hobby (but to a fairly high level). He is almost the same age as me, also separated with a son a similar age to mine.
Around 7 months ago, it was 1-1 between us in a sporting sense. We spent a lot of time talking fairly deeply about our failed relationships, kids, futures etc. Then a load of others joined suddenly and obviously it was different.
Since then, we have spent quite a lot of time on WhatsApp/FB Messenger chatting about all-sorts - from our separations to our sport to our kids to our holidays.
Sometimes, i get an inkling that he would like it to develop further but I am not sure. I can't ask him as if he says no I think I'll have to give up the training and this hobby is a huge part of my life.
I feel like I have to go one way or another soon. What can I do to be certain?
It's like I'm 16 again. We are both socially awkward, we do not share a mother tongue and our cultures are very different.

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Booboobooboo84 · 25/11/2017 21:45

Ask if he fancies meeting up for a drink, see if the spark is there when it’s just the two of you away from your hobby

WishIwasanastronaut · 25/11/2017 22:01

I kind of alluded to it the other day - i said via WhatsApp would he like to come round with his son and another (gay) guy from our sport.
I wish I hadn't tbh. Bloody gin.
I am too nervous to arrange it and what if the other bloke doesn't come or the kids fight.

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TheNaze73 · 25/11/2017 22:22

I think you’re going to have to be proactive on this one & ask him. He’s probably being a professional & won’t want to cross a line

Booboobooboo84 · 26/11/2017 00:04

If the other bloke doesn’t come all the better. Then it’s just the two of you. And your kids will get on fine

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