Can "your type" change?

[Dougietron]

I've recently started a new job and struck up a friendship with a colleague from another department. Whenever we bump into each other, which seems to be a lot lately, we end up chatting for ages and have a real giggle.
I've found myself looking forward to seeing him because we get on so well, looks wise though he is the total opposite of what I would usually call my type. This sounds so stupid but does anyone have experience of liking someone who aesthetically they usually wouldn't?
I'm just feeling a little confused about whether I'm just liking the attention or fancy him?
Don't me wrong there is absolutely nothing wrong with how he looks, he just isn't my usual type

I think it's about chemistry really. My exdh's were similar in looks/build,
my current (fading at the rate of knots) relationship is with someone completely different.

Also I had a crush last year on someone even more different in looks/build to the other three. I don't think you can generalise really. Seems like he fancies you though OP.

Absolutely. I am currently crushing on someone completely different to my previous types. Even though my crush isn't going to go anywhere, it's made me realise I no longer have a 'type' it's just how well I get on with someone and if I find them appealing in both looks and most importantly their personality.

Absolutely - I always thought (probably my welsh background and ...ahem...dress size) that my type should be the rugby player build, stocky, bigger than me. Also loved Northern humour, accent etc

Last relationship with a wiry lanky guy from another country in Europe. Loved his body and brought the realisation that I actually secretly lust after the Stephen Tyler type physique

ExH was my 'type'; Darker skin, lean build, dark dark hair, etc (and beyond the aesthetics, he was in the music industry, was very protective controlling, etc.)

DH is blonde, very pale, blue eyes, muscular, smiley (works in tech, is very relaxed and supportive) and I was very surprised to be attracted to him as blonde guys especially have never been my 'thing', but I was and still am. Not only do tastes change, but chemistry and being able to laugh together make such a difference.

I feel like a school girl around him and it's so silly We are both single and he invited asked me if I want to go out with his friends to do an activity and he asks my opinion on things and generally seems to go out of his way to talk to me. I'm not sure if it's just being friendly or he likes me too.

Well just take it in the spirit of how it's happening - you've made a nice friend at work and now it's expanding wider to social plans.

It's always nice to have fun and positive people in your life.

Wishful thinking maybe lol.
My usual type is really tall (avg. 6"4) average build with tattoos. He is about 5"7, no tats, beer belly. Total opposite

Mickhucknall that's a lovely outset to have I will definitely take that advice

It's a bit like Charlotte and Harry from Sex and the City then?

I have never watched it 😂

DH is not my type - physically, socially or emotionally. I tend (ed) to go for blond ex-rugby player, surveyor/lawyer, outgoing and arrogant. He's dark-haired, a scientist, introverted, Aspie. He's the one I married though, and so far so good.

Definitely. Everything changes as you grow more experienced. My dh is definitely not 'my type.' He's nothing at all like the guys I dated before I met him (met when I was 27), either physically or personality wise. I dated a lot of 'bad boy' musician types with lots of tattoos. My dh is more a 'nice guy', professional, no tattoos, completely different body type, completely different mentality, friends, interests than anyone I dated before him. There's probably a reason why all those relationships crashed and burned so badly and when I opened up and decided to look for someone different (who was probably a better fit for me in every possible way) that I actually met someone I was compatible with and could have a healthy, happy relationship with. And just generally I think you change as you grow older. I'm 37 now and happily married, but if I wasn't and I was back dating again, I wouldn't be looking for the kinds of guys I was in my early 20s. I'd be looking for someone probably a lot like my dh, so I guess that's 'my type' now.