Hi guys, first post here and thanks for listening :) I’m posting as I’m really down about my husbands weight and lifestyle choices. We have been married nearly a year and things are taking a turn for the worst... I have been trying for about 2 years plus to support him to lose weight, running with him, walking, biking, going to weight watchers together...always loving,kind and supportive despite him not being determined enough to lose weight. For me, his health is a major concern as his dad is diabetic, also his son (my step son) and he is about 300 lbs. We cannot sleep together as a newly married couple because of his snoring...every night now we are apart :( even that does not spur him on to lose weight. He failed to lose weight for the wedding.. we are also trying to conceive, I’m 41 so not much time left and we had some tests...to discover that his sperm count was very low and mortilty bad etc...I believe it’s due to too much drinking and bad food choices. I have tried everything...but to no avail. Recently I spent a month doing an intensive yoga teacher course and he promised to shape up along with me...but again he slipped off the wagon while I was away. I feel so let down by him as he promised every time to make some improvements but let’s me and himself down. He gets out of breath very easily and makes excuses to get out of training. He does exercise now, but I have to really beg him. But he over eats massively and can’t seen to realise that you can’t out train 6 beers and a curry. I just feel so sad and depressed about it as I don’t want to be married to a severely obese partner. I want to be with someone who respects himself enough to care about his health...for the sake of his family. I’m at my wits ends and thinking of leaving...I really love him but I’m just not attracted to a 20 stone person. I work really hard to stay in shape myself and find it so disrespectful that he can’t do the same. He knows how I feel as I have told him but we go round in circles again and again.. do I need to be more honest about how I feel? What would you ladies do? I’m gutted as I’m every other way he is my soulmate but it is ruining our marriage :(( thanks for any advice and support you can offer xx