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Odd Remark

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tigercub50 · 24/11/2017 00:36

It’s late but there might be a few still up. DH & I were talking generally about Christmas. I have recently started a new job, which is great, but I said to DH that I was missing some Christmas things because they tend to be on a Saturday ( I work every weekend). He replied that in his opinion, I go to too many organised events! It just seemed odd & isn’t really accurate, as normally it’s just craft fairs or the lights being switched on etc. I defended myself & he apologised, saying he just blurted it out. I wondered if it was a round about way of saying he wanted us to spend a bit more time together ( we haven’t had a night out for ages). I also always fret about the old controlling stuff but maybe I’m overthinking it?

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Disquieted1 · 24/11/2017 00:54

Of course you're overthinking things.
Let it go.

springydaff · 24/11/2017 03:44

What do you mean 'the old controlling stuff'?

I don't agree you're overthinking it. It struck you as odd and imo you should follow that up.

TheNaze73 · 24/11/2017 07:28

Seems a weird think to say but, depends on context

Walkacrossthesand · 24/11/2017 08:00

Does he never come with you to these 'organised events', then?

Joysmum · 24/11/2017 09:55

Given you’ve said you haven’t had a night out today together in ages but do more without him I think it’d be an idea for you to talk to each other about how to nurture your relationship.

PNGirl · 25/11/2017 17:55

I have known a few women who spent all their free non-work time out of the house volunteering, doing night classes, helping out friends who run craft businesses etc. which is fulfilling for her but not great for the relationship. Maybe it's worth raising if he was trying to express a concern?

GertrudeCB · 25/11/2017 17:57

Is the old controlling stuff him historically being critical?

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