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Am I being paranoid

5 replies

TeaCoffee · 23/11/2017 19:02

Hi
I found out two months ago that my H had sex with a prostitute and that he'd been watching a load of porn in the lead up. Our sex life was pretty rubbish before that and intimacy not great. Not that it excuses it. It's been hell but I decided I wanted to forgive him and give him a chance.
I went out last night with some friends and had a few drinks, not much but I barely drink these days. He stayed up. We currently sleep in separate rooms.
This morning when I woke up my nightie was rolled up and off one shoulder. I'm worried about whether he came into my room when I was asleep. But nothing else seemed amiss. I don't know if I'm just in a really bad place and letting my imagination run away with me.
I am quite a deep sleeper, esp after a glass of wine. I'm probably being stupid. I just thought it was odd. I've never taken it off before. I don't know. I don't even really know what I'm asking.

OP posts:
Josuk · 23/11/2017 19:10

OP - what are you really worried about? That he might have been in your room and something happened when you were asleep?

I am sorry for what you are going through. Trust is hard (and maybe impossible) to get back.

TeaCoffee · 23/11/2017 19:32

Yes I suppose that is what I'm worried about.

OP posts:
Crunchymum · 23/11/2017 20:22

The fact that you could suspect your husband of "something" isn't good, at all (and I'm not sure what you suspect him of? Rape? Sexual assault?)

Can you be in a relationship with someone you have such doubts about?

Tinselistacky · 23/11/2017 20:26

Could you have maybe just been too hot and made a half attempt at taking it off yourself? Since the heating has been on a bit our bedroom keeps the heat all bloody night.
Have you asked him?

Josuk · 23/11/2017 20:43

OP - I don’t know how you are going to get through all your other issues with your H. If this is something that pops in your head after waking up, possibly in a too warm room.
Are you (as a couple) seing anyone?
It can only help.

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