The picture- my mum is 90 but all there and fit. She lives with my dad who is not well, but she has loads of local friends and my sibling lives 5 mins away. I live 5 hrs drive away.
I do a lot for her online- all the financial stuff, legal stuff , POA applications, benefits they get for dad, and I order her stuff online weekly - not just food, loads of things.
I work for myself from home. I sometimes have deadlines and like all s/e people I can be madly busy one day and quiet the next. But I have asked her many times not to call me during the day up to about 4pm unless it's urgent. I call her 2-3 times a week anyway, often more.
BUT she still calls me for stuff that is not important whenever the thought comes into her head. Today she called and when I saw it was her I picked up, assuming it was urgent. she said she was intending to leave a message and didn't think I'd be in. There is no logic to this - my being in or out.
All she wanted to tell me was that 3 orders I'd done online had arrived. She could text me, she often does.
I just resent what I see as a lack of respect for me and my working day. Or her following our agreed 'plan'. IF she calls early in the day I pick up because I think it must be urgent. I can listen to her leaving a message- often a LONG message- but it still means I am distracted from work.
But I feel guilty. she is 90 but I am over 60. I just feel so angry that she doesn't consider ME at all, it's all about her.