Did I do the right thing?

[YellowAardvark]

I had feelings for someone that they knew about, but it was never acted on (although they knew how I felt) They then ended up in a relationship that lasted about 2 months. We’ve fallen back in touch but with a strange dynamic - they are in contact all the time, but often to seek advice and affirmation about their failed love life. I enjoyed their friendship but never enjoy talking about the other girls etc.

Then yesterday he made a comment about helping him find a girlfriend who is right for him, and I just cracked and said that i didn’t want to be friends anymore, it’s too hard.

It’s been 24 hours and he’s not even responded and now I regret it.

Did I overreact? I think I need some tough love

You did the right thing. He doesn't return your feelings and you need to protect yourself. It will get easier. Try and keep busy and distracted.

Yes you did the right thing. He doesn't return your feelings but is possibly enjoying the ego-stroking of knowing about your feelings, if you see what I mean.

Whatever, it's never going to come to anything and you will end up hurt.

Move on.

You definitely did the right thing. Dont look back.

Yep. You didn't the right thing. He's relying on you emotionally because he knows you care. Look after yourself and steer clear.

He sounds a bit of a loser to be honest. How are you meant to help him find a girlfriend? Why would you even want to? You absolutely did the right thing if he knows you have feelings. you did not over react.

He's not over his 2 month relationship. Back away.

Yes, you did the right thing. He knows you have feelings for him but wants you to help him find a girlfriend? I'd say he's a selfish little shit. Also agree he's enjoying knowing you like him and feeding off the ego boost.

You definitely did the right thing!

Thanks all. If just feels so rough is all