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I need to stop this and I need to be told off

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CathysGhost · 22/11/2017 20:05

I am having a crap time with DH. We've been bickering and not getting on, arguing etc for a long while now. Sometimes I hate him, sometimes there are glimpses of the man I loved before and I don't hate him at all.

Since September, I have a new trainee at work and I have a stupid crush on him. It's inappropriate and awkward and I need to stop it. I think about him all the time, I really fancy him. He's funny, extremely good looking and we have loads in common. If I was single I'd have been making an effort to establish something with him but I'm not and neither is he.

How can I stop this feeling? I know it's because things are rocky with DH. There's no way I'm going to have a fling with the crush , I just need advice on how to switch the feelings off.

The crush is my age, by saying trainee I think that may have been misleading. I'm in mid thirties and I need to get a grip.

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CathysGhost · 26/11/2017 18:11

I've confided in my friend and it's burst the bubble a bit. As far as DH goes, I've talked and talked to him about his moods / our relationship but we keep going over the same issues all the time. Nothing changes.

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Bluntness100 · 26/11/2017 18:19

Your husband sounds unhappy. Remember there are two people in your marriage and if you’re unhappy then he probably is too. Fantasising about your crush will simoly make you shorter tempered with your husband, so you’re in a vicious circle here.

You need to decide if you wish to stay together. The fundamental question is do you wish to remain in your marriage. If the answer is no, then separate.