My ongoing issues are well documented on here - I have posted this separately to my other thread as I would welcome some views please
Ds has been off sick the last two days with a bad cold - ( i believe the frequency with which he is ill is an indication of a reduced immune system due to stress)
I had a Much needed and rare night booked away last night - it was x contact time - I left Ds in bed yesterday morning knowing that he was going to be picked up by the x as usual. I was in contact with Ds during the day. I had told Ds I would cancel but he said he was ok with me going.
This morning I message DD to see how she is and ask her if Ds went to school.i get a reply back saying she doesn't know - x and Ds had an argument last night and Ds came back here on his own.
Ds is not replying to my texts - in view of his previous self harm /suicidal comments I am concerned_ I have no idea where he is and so I call the school to find out if he's there - they sound a bit confused when I tell them its his mother but he has gone to school - I am relieved he is ok
I understand Ds left his blazer here - x refused to bring him back to get it but said he could wear his ( this would have swamped Ds) -an argument followed with Ds coming back here by bus and spending the night on his own - he is 16 although this is the first time.
X picked Dd up from work later that night - this is how she knew - I do not understand why x did not bring Ds back either earlier or when he picked Dd up - 30 minutes round trip at most
I believe this is the x continuing to cause problems for the kids Firstly by refusing to bring Ds back and then secondly be picking up Dd - this is one of the abusive tactics outlined in Lundy's book - divide and conquer - Ds said things would be worse when I posted on here about the dog fleas - you will need to read my other post! Is this it punishment of Ds because he told me what had happened - and because I thought it was funny that Karma seemed to be doing its stuff. X reads my threads - my document of my ongoing hell as a result of divorcing a narc!
I am concerned that I was not told - I assumed Ds was with x He was here alone - it is the comments that Ds makes about his own life that concern me and that the x cannot put himself out for the welfare of his kids - yes to play them off against each other but never consistently with their needs
Ds is struggling he has a cold I'm waiting for him now to come back from school - his day is long at the best of times! WTF is wrong with his father!
Did x think I would know last night and this would ruin my time ( has happened before) - or does he just not give a fuck about his fucking kids - the answer is probably both or is this another attempt by him to try and show that I am a bad parent because I went away on a pre planned night when Ds was ill with a cold - even though it was his contact time
Every time I try and help myself move forward the fucker has to do something