Feelings changed after baby?

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I have not long had a baby and I feel like I have no attraction to my husband?

I had these feelings during pregnancy, i actually disliked my husband. We slept separately, no intimacy etc which we put down to pregnancy , hormones, work our other kids and drama from his brothers wife.

I’m hoping that it’s still my hormones causing havoc! We have been together since I was 16, coming up 12 years. We have such a close relationship & he’s my best friend. Just feel there’s been too much drama etc that I have lost feelings and interest.

Can anyone else say they have felt like this after baby?

Imo this is perfectly normal. Your body is programmed to give 100% to your baby at this early stage. Dm mode won't last forever and you will reach a time when you are dw again!! Remember to include dh with the baby and have some 'you' time. You aren't just a dm - you are still you too!!

Normal. Just give yourself a chance as lots of changes happenig at the moment for you both.

Thanks, feel really bad as I have told dh how I’m feeling and he’s a bit sad.

I never felt like this with other 2. Hopefully passes soon.

I think when you have other dc you strive to be even more independent and determined to 'cope' with everything, sometimes pushing a dh away without intention. Remember you are a team and let him be there for you all!! You don't have to be Supermam!!

Totally normal over the last year since I had DS2 there have been times when I have positively loathed my husband to the extent that I was looking at leaving him with the kids and moving 500 miles back to my family on the other side of the country. And then it passes and now at 13 months things are back to normal and a lot better.

But it is hard to see the fine line between it being baby related or being "real" problem in relationship

I'm feeling this way too. 7 weeks on and some times I look at him with our baby and my heart swells with love...other times he breaths and i hate him!!
iv been very honest with him and I know he is trying his best and he is doing a good job but I just can't help it

I'm feeling this way too. 7 weeks on and some times I look at him with our baby and my heart swells with love...other times he breaths and i hate him!!
iv been very honest with him and I know he is trying his best and he is doing a good job but I just can't help it

@greentreeseverywhere. This is the same as me, I have felt like this during pregnancy. There is no denying my husband is a great husband and excellent father.

I feel there has been so much that has happened between us over the last 2 years with miscarriaging and the drama on his side of the family that it has worn me down.

I have had many talks with him with how I’m feeling but obviously he keeps putting it down to hormones and to see it out.

I think it will be a case for us to continue and see how things go.

I only felt this way when he wasn't helping enough with the baby and I was doing what seemed like everything.

My husband does a lot, he always has. I can’t put it down to that as he’s really good with everything.

Are you feeling tired? Maybe just too exhausted to be bothered.

I wrote a thread like this a week or so ago! Everyone in there told me it would get better. I think the key is communication. With my dp I talk very openly about how I'm feeling and we talk about it makes us both feel 100 times better. My attraction to him is coming back slowly but surely. He got his hair cut the other day and I actually thought my God I fancy you! Haha its normal and things will come back!. Takes an annoying amount of time.

I’m actually not too bad, baby is sleeping from 9 until 5-6am. I feel like I’m taking a bit longer to feel myself this time round, think I’ve got used to spending most nights myself.

Hormones, stress, family, kids etc has maybe got the better of me and he’s getting it.

Thanks everyone, hopefully everything goes back to normal sooner rather than later.

I felt the same but then I had no sexual feelings whatsoever, for a year after birth. I felt completely asexual. Definitely hormones, has totally resolved now.

Crikey - can your baby teach my toddlers how to do that? That sounds awesome!

Thankfully I have had good sleeping children, it’s still early days with no.3, Long may it continue!

I have went of intercourse, cuddling & kissing since I became pregnant and it’s stuck.

Hopefully once I feel myself and the drive comes back our relationship will feel like old times.