DH vs DD clothes

[Spottysock]

Hi. I'd appreciate your opinions on the following:

DD is 7 and has quite definite ideas about what she wears. My general view is so long as it's appropriate for weather etc and decent then I can't get too worked up about clashing patterns/colours etc.

Last night DD was going to cubs for the first time. She had put on leggings and a jumper. The leggings were navy. She then had spotty socks on and her black school shoes meaning that the socks were visible.

DH sent her to either change her socks or to put boots on as "those socks look silly and you don't want people thinking that".

I think that it really does not matter what she wears and that we shouldn't be getting her worried about what other people think of her for her clothing choices.

In the end she put some boots on and seemed happier enough.

Should I have taken DH to task over it last night. I didn't want to cause an argument in front of DD when she might well have been nervous about starting cubs. But I'm thinking I should have a word with DH and say it's sending her the wrong messages.

You're overthinking this. I really don't think it matters unless your child is unusually sensitive - and it doesn't sound like she is if she was 'happy enough' to change. I really wouldn't have a word with him about something that caused zero issues.

I don't really see this as a big deal. Maybe he didn't want any other children passing comment if she looked a bit daft?
My children dress themselves but sometimes they need a bit of guidance. If DD wasn't upset it's fine IMO. I'd just let it go.

Hmmm it's a tricky one. On one hand you don't want to create yet another self conscious girl who worries what others think of her too much. But then your DH was likely just wanting to protect her from potentially being the target of mockery.

Saying that it's probably better to raise a confident kid who us comfortable in herself so I'd err towards agreeing with you.

Maybe just mention it to him casually like "I was thinking maybe we should let Dd pick what she wears even though we might not like it what do you think?" then you could have a conversation about it.