Holiday issue

[Chocolatefiend99]

Hi

My DP had given me an ultimatum. I am living in the middle east. He is in the uk. My sisters are visiting in december and we've booked to go to abu dhabi and dubai for a few days. A few hours in abu dhabi then 2 days in dubai.

I had also planned to visit with my DP in february. My DP has asked me to cancel my trip with my sisters or not go with them as he wants me to go with him for the first time and experience it together.

I have said my DP is being unreasonable. He operates to set rules. Thinks are black or white with him. Right or wrong and nothing changes his view.

I have stood my ground and refused to cancel my trip so he has ended the relationship. I dont feel i have done anything wrong.

I believe he has autism but will not get tested. His son (not my child) has been diagnosed. He can never see anyone elses perspective other than his own and in his opinion i have wronged him. I shouldnt go because it upsets him.

Am i in the wrong?

You are definitely not in the wrong and he is being incredibly unreasonable. Find someone who will be happy for you to enjoy yourself with friends on holidays. He's being controlling and doesn't have your best interests at heart

No you are not in the wrong.
I'm sorry your relationship has ended but you couldn't put up with demands like that.

In what practical sense is he your “partner” when you don’t see him November through Feb? You aren’t cancelling your trip and he has walked away sounds like the decision is made for you.

Your right uptheduffy it can be difficult being in a relationship when we only see each other every 3-4 months. I wish he thought differently and could see my point of view but he wont ever.

I don't really see your point of view either and I'm not autistic.

Looking on the bright side though, at least you won't miss his company.

He sounds like hard work, really not worth getting that het up over as you won't see much in 2 days anyway. Is a ldr with him really worth this effort? Does it have much of a future?

Nibora you think she should not go away with her sisters?

You can’t argue a feeling & he felt you were in the wrong. Each to their own.
Have a great time

Someone being in the wrong is not a feeling, it’s an opinion. He felt angry that she wouldn’t do what he wanted. The feeling is anger, and that’s a good enough reason to be glad it’s over.

I hope you have a great time with your sisters. He sounds incredibly difficult and I couldn’t be happy with someone that expected me to cancel the plans of everyone else just because he suddenly decided he wanted something else. I assume they’d already booked etc?

You’re probably better off without him.

Nibora can you really not understand the OP’s point of view that she didn’t want to cancel the planned holiday she had booked with her sisters? There are so many ways to compromise and spend time together without expecting everyone to bend to his one way.