My DD told me that her Dad told her not to tell me if she gets ill. I found out after finding out she had temp. and sore throat when I asked how long she’d felt ill she told me a few days “but daddy told me not to tell you.” He was supposed to take her to a family do this weekend.
What do I do? He has a history of DV against me and in general with women ( multiple charges and arrests) he is a compulsive liar and hugely manipulative. This does not surprise me in the least.
I’ve withheld contact before due to safeguarding concerns, fear for her safety, him and his partner using drugs etc
He took me to court not long ago for more contact and now has a contact order in place for school pickups and every other weekend. He had to sign an undertaking to court to state he wouldn’t allow drugs around my child.
He hasn’t kept to the order at all and has missed almost every weekend he has been granted. He simply doesn’t show up and then pretends like nothing’s happened.
And now this..my daughter has now told me he told her not to tell me if she gets ill. He has completely denied saying this, in affect calling my DD (8 and 1/2) a liar. I believe her completely as she isn’t a storyteller or liar and this is something he would do.
I’ve withheld contact since last week, eversince she told me.
How seriously will CAFCASS treat her word against his? I’m livid he is denying this and doing this to my DD.