I have been seeing a man for the last few months, but been in contact for a lot longer. Anyway, to cut a long story short - I feel that he is using me, it has settled to meeting once a week- some meal together and sex in some cheap hotel. He has been in my house but I have never visited his place.
I have refused to see him for the last few weeks, just told him that I was busy. I had two major achievements in my life recently and regardless that we have only been seeing each other for last few months, I expected some flowers, nothing big. I have started to see little red flags here and there, once, when I invited him for dinner and asked him to bring a bottle of wine, he was surprised that I had asked him to bring wine with him when I had a bottle of wine.
I had some problems recently and found that I could not discuss my problems with him, "another red flag?" I don't know where I stand and started seriously hating myself for getting intimate with him.
If we are friends with benefits, I have not seen any benefits in the relationship, so I asked him directly where I stood. He said that we were partners. Partners in what?
I finished with him last night! I am not going to invest my time and energy as I would rather use the time to invest in myself.