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So petty

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BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot · 16/11/2017 21:24

Our Hoover broke. Not dead broke but broke enough it couldn't be repaired and wasn't doing a good enough job any more. I wanted to buy a new one husband said not to. I ignored him and bought one anyway because I want a clean house.

He exploded at me saying he's sick of not being listened to how dare I not do as he asked. I never listen to him. I've disrespected him. Blew it right out of proportion and then stomped off to bed saying he's sick of me not doing what I'm told and has gone up without saying "love you". Despite our rows we never go to bed without saying "love you".

I couldn't even muster a reaction other than disgust at him for talking to me like this about a bloody hoover so whilst I'm upset he didn't say "love you" if he had I don't think I could have said it back to him.

Such a petty argument speaks volumes of the state of our marriage to me.

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pog100 · 16/11/2017 21:32

Is it normal that he expects you to obey him? I think that's your problem.

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BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot · 16/11/2017 21:34

He gets shitty when he doesn't get his own way and it is his way or no way. I think I've snapped.

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Bluntness100 · 16/11/2017 21:34

Why did he not want you to buy a hoover. Is there s financial problem that’s causing him to react this way? Money worries can cause a lot of stress.

Justbookedasummmerholiday · 16/11/2017 21:35

Take the hoover back and give the fucker a dustpan and brush.

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BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot · 16/11/2017 21:35

I have no idea. We can afford it. Pay day is the other side of the weekend and I have spare money plus savings. There is no reason why I couldn't have bought this other than he didn't want me to.

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WorkingBling · 16/11/2017 21:38

He’s sick of you not doing what you are told?! Bloody hell, there’s a massive r d flag right there.

Who’s generally the person who does the vacuuming?! Assuming it’s you, and you have money, then I see no situation in which he gets to dictate your purchase.

Frankly, he sounds like a complete twat and I would be concerned about how little he thinks of you.

Angelf1sh · 16/11/2017 21:42

If my husband told me he was sick of me not doing what I was told, he’d be lucky if he got out of the room alive.

Desmondo2016 · 16/11/2017 22:02

I imagine you have other stories you could tell similar to the Hoover one. I think if it were me I'd have tested out it's suction in his balls just to prove how needed it was.

MinervaSaidThar · 17/11/2017 03:18

Yes, what ^ they all said!

Do as you're told?! Why are you putting up with this?

SonicBoomBoom · 17/11/2017 03:25

Does he like making your life more difficult than it needs to be? Does he get some sort of kick out of the hoovering taking you twice as long?

ChipIn · 17/11/2017 03:50

My DH used to use language and behave like that. I snapped and for over 6 months we’ve been working on it but have called it a day. We still get on in other areas though so very amicable. Anyway, my point is I realised speaking to me like that means he has very little respect for me and thinks he’s the boss in the relationship and when it comes to money, despite us both earning pretty much equal over the last few years.

Your DH’s reaction is not ok.

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