wise old man vs. grumpy old man?

[user1891]

Did anyone's partner became less grumpy as they became older?

From what people say on here - NOPE!
They just get worse and worse.
What do you mean by grumpy?
Shouty?
Ignoring?

melons, I was wondering if someone's been through this already... Grumpy ... well just generally rather negative about things

No, my dad is exactly the same. A grumpy, volatile stresshead...

Someone only gets less like that if they work on developing different coping and communication skills. It doesn’t just disappear as you get older.

I think the grumpiness becomes a habit and more ingrained unless they deliberately try to change.
It's hard to break habits as there is a payoff for the behaviour..work out whats the benefit to them?

Well, from a male perspective (only mine though), yes they can. I think it comes with time, confidence, experience, especially the latter and life experiences in heavy doses. Learning to open up that heavy sack we carry around with us, about who or what we should be, taking those little rocks out one by one, and throwing them away. When they are gone, when we know there are no expectations of ourselves that are relevant, that what we learned was bullshit, when we set our own destiny and goals and believe we can and will achieve them, we are already there. It is not a 'man' thing it's a people thing. We are all the same and different at the same time.

Don't live with a grump twat, it's contagious. Seriously.

My Dad was a grumpy, angry bugger. My mum always said that it was just because he worked so hard and was so stressed. But he didn't change one iota when he retired, he was just as bad, if anything he was worse because he added self pity into the mix.