Re-posting after limited replies elsewhere. I am manager of a small team and said woman is my deputy. She is leaving because it's an awful place to work due to higher management flaws.
We have always been close and have driven through a lot of improvements in our team. I feel she has a lot of skills I don't and often feel inadequate to her. Over the years I've said this to her and she has always said she has learnt loads from me and I'm being silly. We don't meet much socially but do confide in each other a fair bit.
Since handing in her notice her manner towards me has changed. She seems to cut in when I'm talking, often in quite an abrasive way. Today I was talking about something personal but minor and clarified a point and she cut in " I really don't give a shit." It was actually quite awful though I tried to make a joke of it. It's the worst out of several similar examples.
Her going is leaving us as a team in the shit as we are struggling to replace her. I was a bit "off" with her briefly when she announced it but apologised that night so don't know if that's it and that was weeks ago.
I have loved working with her but it seems to be ending on a sour note. Any ideas why?