How long to give a person to settle down

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How long do you think you should give a person to get it together and settle down as a family? Been with other half over 5 years our daughter is 4 .I'm still living alone with our child. He works away only home weekends. I feel the responsibilities lie totally on me with our child running a place etc .I feel alone in it rather then as a team .it's not always been the case that he has worked away. There have been other reasons for not being settled in past. He behaviour. How he is when he has alot to drink .drugs played a part which i didn't no about. Now for last 2 or 3 years he works away with this new job .He likes it money is good etc .but I'm just fed up of being alone. But I do still feel some Thing for him which don't help in walking away .any thoughts

Is he great fun when home, does he pull his weight with your child, and participate in general home maintenance on weekends?

The drugs and drink - still an issue?

Sorry for the barrage of questions.

You've done this backwards. The settling down should have happened before the child.

I no .the pregnancy was a shock. But we was happy. No he don't do anything round the place it's seen as my place .and he isn't very hands on with our daughter

Why are you with him? Having a child together isn't enough of a reason.

It might be thst you arebt the woman he want to settle down with...or he isn't the settling down type...

It sounds like he's not capable of giving or committing to a stable relationship with you.

If you want stability...look for another man.

How do you let go if you still love them but know there is no hope

First of all , you dont give 'them' a time limit. You're the boss of nobody and vice versa. You give yourself one. Not happy? End it. He more than likely will never be a family man.

Very blunt