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Go off and have an affair if partner has a low sex drive?

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Teddy7878 · 15/11/2017 13:09

Just saw on Loose Women a discussion about whether it's common or not to have the same libido as your partners.
Janet Street Porter said if people in a relationship where their partner puts on weight and doesn't want any sex and is generally just miserable to be around then it should be ok to go off and have sex elsewhere behind their back.
Please tell me the majority of people don't follow this same train of thought?!
If my partner stopped having sex with me I'd try and get to the root cause of it and fix things. If it couldn't be fixed then I'd leave. I wouldn't just go out and shag someone behind his back

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TheSecondMrsAshwell · 15/11/2017 13:15

Of course they don't.

Why pay attention to her?

Teddy7878 · 15/11/2017 13:16

Well she got clapped and cheered by the audience when she said it

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Ropsleybunny · 15/11/2017 13:18

What a stupid woman she is!

fantasmasgoria1 · 15/11/2017 13:20

If you have tried everything possible to try and fix the issue or the other person refuses to sort it then with agreement of both parties perhaps an open relationship?! My ex refused to address the issue and after several years I broached open marriage but he said no way so I left! There were many other reasons to leave such as dv etc! Janet street porter is known for being outspoken and her opinions can seem questionable to others!

Yeeeha · 15/11/2017 13:20

Well she got clapped and cheered by the audience when she said it

I guess she got clapped by the people in the audience who feel like their partners aren’t that arsed about them because they have got fat and stopped being interested in sex.

She probably didn’t get clapped by the ones who are the partners who have got fat and stopped being interested in sex, but who might have just had a reality check.

certificateofauthenticity · 15/11/2017 15:12

IMHO is not ok. We all change physically and mentally. If it is that important to you, try to change the way your partner has become and if that fails, find happiness after you have left your marriage. Just my opinion.

Be3Al2Si6O18 · 15/11/2017 15:24

She is an irrelevance.

jeaux90 · 15/11/2017 15:35

I wouldn't but I would finish the relationship.

I can see why people do go and have affairs though but I don't think this is a valid reason.

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