they call you abusive for reacting to their abuse - article

[greenberet]

themindsjournal.com/reactive-abuse/

This is exactly what my husband does. He has just stormed out having blamed me for his lack of cleaning up broken glass and then for getting divorce proceedings in place, and telling me he's the victim....

Yep - pretty much the standard MO for abusers.

Standard. Fall foul of it and the services that are supposed to protect your from it will collide with your abuser.

Run away. As fast as you can. Do not look back.

*collude

So accurate. This could have been written about my abuser.

This is so true

I got called controlling for years by my ea ex because I wanted to know what plans were from day to day. It took me a long time to realise that he was using his unreliability to control me.