Had our beautiful DS 13 weeks ago. Before having our son mines and dp relationship was brilliant. Lots of affection we got on well. Since having our DS things have been very strained, arguing over stupid things the intimacy isn't really there anymore. In the first 7 or so weeks I didn't even want a hug or kiss or really to be around dp, every single thing he was doing was irritating the hell out of me, I could see the affect my rejecting him and constantly being annoyed at him was having on him and I hated myself but I couldn't make it stop. After about.7 or so weeks i started to want to be around him and be affectionate as in i wanted cuddles and to kiss him but no where near what it used to be like. I'm starting only just want sex but again no where near as often could happily go without it tbh. I feel a bit heartless. I'm breastfeeding and I read that has an effect on your drive also. I know having a baby is a major change (ds is our first child) and we are trying to adjust to it but I really miss how things used to be but it's not the same no matter how much I wish it was I just don't feel the same, not that I don't love him but I just don't feel like I want to be as affectionate and I'm constantly tired ECT. Please tell me it's the strain of being new parents and things improve relationship wise? Anyone else been through this and things improve? I love him very much but right.now things are so strained that I think if it keeps going like this we will end up seperating.