First ever post here, just have to vent. Since yesterday I have been in a state. I mistakenly came across some paperwork that indicated that my husband (of 19 years) has purchased a property without my knowledge. We are reasonably well off and have other investment properties, however we've always bought them in joint names, and I have been involved in the purchase. I questioned him when I found this paperwork, asked him if he has bought a property without my knowledge. He denied it and said it must be a mistake. I said I would ring the phone number and he said he'd do it later. Five minutes later he says he has a confession to make. Yes, he did buy the property two years ago, thinking that as his mother (who lives in Europe) could live in it if she needs (she's 80). She basically has no family once husband's stepfather dies. He said he didn't tell me because I would be upset she would be coming to live close to us "knowing how you feel about my mother". I find this unbelievable as firstly we have our differences but have always tolerated each other, and secondly she already has an apartment 20 minutes drive from us, right on the beachfront, that she loves. In the past she has come and stayed in this apartment for two or three months, once every year or so. He swears this is the reason he bought this new apartment.
Since I have had a look at this apartment online. It is a brand new luxury penthouse apartment in the tallest residential building in my city, and was bought for $2m! I do not know what to think. Firstly I considered he was keeping a mistress, but found the tennant's name on the paperwork. It is actually a high profile businessman and his family. Was he buying it on the sly in case we separate? That is the only reason I can think of. I am so angry, haven't spoken to him since last night but not sure how to ask questions without getting emotional. He can be verbally aggressive (never physically) when cornered and he will just lie with his answers anyway. What shall I ask him? For purchase documents? Has he bought others (asked him yesterday and of course he said no)? If he has ever transferred money to his mother? I'm so upset.