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My mum is mad with me and acting like a sulky toddler

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StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 16/04/2007 18:35

Argggggggghhhhhhhhh.

2 years ago she had an affair (she's in her 60s), my dad found out and wasn't happy about it at all. However mum said that she wanted them to have the freedom to see other people, but remain married for practical reasons. All love/romance was long gone.

So dad finds himself a girlfriend and mum at first is ok about this. Then she gets dumped by her bf and next thing she goes nuts at my dad about HIS adultery. She's now claiming that she never actually had sex with her bf so has not committed adultery. She attcks my dad physically and smashed the house up!!!! Dad leaves that night and never goes back.

He has his own flat, where he's been for 18 months, they are getting divorced (dragging on with solicitors now) and he is still seeing his girlfriend.

On Easter Sunday he came round to visit and his gf came too. She's been here before but I've never mentioned it my mum. DD let slip that the gf had been oevr though. My mum hit the roof. She doesn't think I should have "that woman" in my house until the divorce is final.

Personally I can't see what difference a bit of paper is going to make. Their relationship is over. Plus mum had a boyfriend first. She was hardly speaking to me when I rang earlier. I really don't feel I should (or can) tell my dad his gf can't come.

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Carmenere · 16/04/2007 18:39

Oh God blardy parents are so weary about this crappy subject. A friend of mine had to lie about her dd's christening because her mother diddn't want her fathers gf there.

Tell her to grow up and stop wasting time and energy on a failed relationship because at her age she may not have too many years left to find happiness with someone else and being a bitter and jealous old hag is not very attractive.

Carmenere · 16/04/2007 18:39

Or not if you like her.
Sorry if a bit harsh.

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 16/04/2007 18:40

I just wish I had the nerve to say that to her. Its so true.

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hoobledoopwoop · 16/04/2007 18:43

i dont think you should tell your dad his gf cant come.i think your mum is annoyed because what she did has come back to bite her and your dad is now the one better off and she doesnt like it.maybe she didnt think your dad would find someone else? i think you should carry on seeing your dad and his gf despite what she thinks about it, she has to come round eventually.maybe when she gets a new bf??
take care and try not to let it get to you too much x

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