First off hi. Please don't be too mean I'm absloutley devastated and paranoid and I don't want to be overthinking things when it's not needed.
I had a baby 12 week ago, so do already feel day and ugly. Ebf doesn't help. Neither does my 2 1/2 year old..
Well to start with me and oh have been together nearly 5 years, and back in 2026 we split up for 3 month. During that time I found out he was texting a woman called Martina, he asked me over one day and he left his phone on the bed, and there were texts from her saying things like, 'omg I'm so fucked I need some more coke xxxxxxx' and oh like 'Lol me too babe xxxxxxxx' well I wasn t arsed we wasnt together end of. ( I must point out dp works 40h a week, doesn't do coke now we're back together but did do it weekends when we split up)
Today his work friend come over for tea. Well not to be obvious dp name is very close to a girls name. And I was playing with his hair and said shall I start calling you -and said her name because it is very very very similar to his, and is what you would use to the women alternative to his-
Well I totally forgot he was obviously texted -her- when we broke up.
His friend started akughing and said I know what you're on about. I said oh yeah what's that? He said the woman that works on packing, she wears tight bottoms and he said -on about dp- to his friend oh she a cracking arse :( . Now I've had a convo with dp and he swears blind she doesn't work there no more. Hard to believe really.
I asked his friend if he said anything else and to tell me but he went bright red, couldn't stop laughing and sent silent. Dp was sat there with us...
I'm just questioning this further.... Is there more that meets the eye here?
Should I be worried?
Is dp lieing?
Most of all should I LTB.
I'm just so hurt hes lied. I just feel like I can't trust him no more. He tells me storied about work all the time and goes on about how there's no women there. Or how they're all not nice. I've tried telling him I'm not bothered what women are there, just to not lie to me.
What's hurt me most is how he's lied to me about who is there. A woman he previously had sexual talks with, who apparently wears tight clothes and to dp has s cracking arse.
Dp does have history of cheating. When we first got together he cheated in me 3 times. And I stupidly took him back. I honestly thought he'd changed 2 kids down the line :( someone please calm me down.