I've done the right thing so please give me a pat on the back!

[Nothavingfunrightnow]

I met a seemingly lovely man online. He is so right for me in many ways. But the red flags started popping up (thank heavens for MN) - love bombing, manipulative, gas lighting ever so gently, completely in awe of me and so completely adoring, fast forwarding the relationship etc etc etc.

I called it off and he bombarded me with texts trying to convince me to give "us" a try because of how wonderful I am...and how he will never find someone like me again. I feel really blue this week and even lonely. So it sounded like a good idea to at least give it a go but I came to my senses and have now cancelled seeing him and have blocked him wherever I can.

Please remind me what a clever girl i am to have avoided that one!

No thanks needed! you are totally doing the right thing

Yes, I know. :) I already feel a little relieved.

Being fairly new to MN and still not familiar with all the terminology, what exactly does 'love bombing and gas lighting' mean?

Maybe I'll be able to understand what the issue is here lol.

You know it's the right thing to do. Doesn't matter if he was wonderful, your gut is telling you it's not...

www.psychologytoday.com/blog/reading-between-the-headlines/201703/why-love-bombing-in-relationship-is-so-devious

lonerwolf.com/gaslighting/

nothaving Well done! I was really glad I blocked the guy as it would have been easy to fall back in with him. I'd rather make myself available to the right man and not get caught up with Mr Wrong.

Read .my post, will it always be like this for me now. God I wished I'd listened to my instincts all that time ago.
Please please please listen to your gut and just do not meet him.
It was only a short time, what can he have to say the you need to hear?
He has no respect for your boundaries or he wouldn't have wrote to you after blocking him.
You think it's hard now to end things, imagine how much harder he will make it a year down the line, trust me I know as I've been there.
Walk away, continue to ignore him, do not become part of his game, save yourself the pain and trauma.

The universe sends us these “gut feelings” for a very good reason. We ignore them at our peril. I am not just talking about relationships either. I have very strong “gut feelings” in lots of situations, when I was viewing a flat I thought I would buy, thinking of taking a job etc. remeber — “When in doubt don’t”. Keep strong.

ALittleBit, you're so right. I felt a bit sad today - how much worse would it be in a year's time.

My late father used to say "When in doubt, don't", Zofloraqueen27.

I blocked him everywhere but the ordinary texts still come through. He brought out the big guns:" I am in love with you" he said.

NO! I won't be responding.

Thank fuck for MN.