Has your partner ever put his hands on you

[Inezmacbeth]

Last night my husband got mad st something I said, walked up to me, grabbed me hard by my wrists and shook me and then threw me on the bed and grabbed my throat. I can't really remember what he was saying cause I was so shocked ..at one point I was coughing and struggling cause he put pressure on my windpipe.
I remember he yelled at me for doing one of my OCD rituals in the bathroom (it's something I struggle with, and I'm sensitive about). I wanted to chuck the bottle of moisturizer at his head but I took a few breathes and instead said something really stupid like "go put your head in the toilet and flush it" or smthg equally as mature and witty.
And he friggin attacked me.

I'm just shook and shocked and angry. At first I thought he was joking because this is SO out of character for him.

He tried apologizing this morning, but I'm really angry still. I grew up in a home prone to violence and I've done a lot of work on myself and I don't wanna go back to being afraid of speaking for fear someone will assault me like it was as a kid.
I don't even know what to think. Here I thought I'd married a man who would never hurt me, and I guess I was wrong?

Hi ,
my bf hurt me. He banged my hand back and push elbow in my face. It’s hurt so much. He be drunk. I be so scared. He said he will never do that again. He promised go get help but he never did. And he drinks again. I want lieve him but he said he loves me and he never do that again. What I need to do?

Hi @Zagare, please get in touch with domestic abuse services in your area.

If he's drunk and threatening right now, if you possibly can safely, call the police and ideally get out of the house. Please try to get somewhere safe.

Unfortunately it tends to be a cycle of violence where abusive partners make promises it will never happen again, but it does. So you need to leave him for good.

You're probably better starting a new thread of your own rather than using this old one if you're to get good advice, as people tend to answer the OP and won't necessarily see your post.

That is such a serious assault and you should be reporting it to the police.

Your poor children are now at risk of loosing their mother to violence.

This is so serious and so not normal.

The police will view this as very serious too.

Please think of your children and report this.

Don't put him ahead of your children by remaining silent.