I just need to rant about this as I’m so upset. I took dd2 (13) and dd3 (8) to a firework night with a so called friend and her daughter. This was her idea. Her dd is the same age as dd3 and they have been friends for years but no longer attend the same school. She often sends me texts saying she thinks the world of me blah blah and has taken dd3 on days out.
Dd2 is NT and dd3 has autism. At the moment dd3 is having a rough patch and has severe ocd and is barely sleeping.
So my friend wanted to go into the fireworks display 2 hours before it started. I knew this was a bad idea because dd3 would get overloaded and said so but my friend insisted we needed to go in then. I should have said no but I also am on the spectrum and sometimes allow other people to boss me around. I won’t do that again!
Dd3 was a bit loud and screechy but otherwise wasn’t hurting anyone. I was also feeling overloaded. My friend suddenly says to me ‘oh hahahaha, that woman just said your dd3 is a nightmare’ I was really hurt that she felt she had to blurt this out to me. Why tell me?
Then she spent the rest of the evening saying I’m not firm enough with dd3, she’s changed and comparing her negatively with dd2 who doesn’t have autism! She also ignored the fact that her daughter was winding dd3 up by shoving pizza in her face and pulling her hair. Dd2 also told me she noticed this. The friend was really quite off with me and nasty as though she thinks I’m to blame for my daughter being a bit loud.
Since then I’ve decided to bin her but I feel so mad because she went to great lengths to convince me she is a great friend in the past when she clearly isn’t. I’m starting to think she just wanted to push me around and saw me as an easy target. Why would anyone be so nasty? My daughter is not a nightmare usually - I spoke to her teacher on Monday and she says she’s a lovely little girl. She is loud but she’s very kind and affectionate.