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Made a fool of myself.

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Wineclubsmynewhobby · 07/11/2017 11:29

Well guess who feels like am idiot today? Yep that would be me.
I foolishly yet again thought that I meant more to someone than I did and it feels like a knife has been plunged in my heart.

We've been on dates, slept together, went away for the weekend and guess what I wake up to this morning, loads of pics of him and another woman on holiday a few months ago, the same holiday he told me he was going to with his friends.

I feel like such a fool, I knew deep down it wasn't going to go anywhere, but I wanted it, i really did now I'm sat at work trying to hold back the tears and trying not to call him.

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Wineclubsmynewhobby · 07/11/2017 13:07

No,definitely no pick me dance.
I've already asked him if he wants to be with me today and he's skipped around the question and ignored it, so I've told him I don't want to take our relationship any further.

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SandyY2K · 07/11/2017 13:14

He's the fool. Not you.

Wineclubsmynewhobby · 07/11/2017 13:19

Thanks emnetta I don't think there will be a next time, I'm done with men my dcs dad cheated and left me for the ow and I've been on my own for 5 years, I can't take anymore pain.

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Wineclubsmynewhobby · 07/11/2017 13:23

I really do feel a fool though, how did I not see it?

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Wineclubsmynewhobby · 07/11/2017 13:37

I so badly want to call him, I would have spoken to him at least 3 times by now.

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TheEmmaDilemma · 07/11/2017 13:40

3 times in one day by now?

EmNetta · 07/11/2017 14:02

Well OP, I guess you didn't see this happening because you're just an honest, straight-forward type, and didn't think to be suspicious, but there are lots of decent men around and it is likely one will turn up. Living without a man is fine (I'm widowed), but life can be better as a couple of course. and not all men cheat.

hellsbellsmelons · 07/11/2017 14:24

3 times before 2pm!
Wow - that's a lot.
But he's a lying, cheating scumbag and you are well rid.
It's hard but you'll get there.
Be kind to yourself!

ZestyMaximus · 07/11/2017 14:47

Well done on ending things OP. So sorry you're hurting but definitely the right thing to do. At least you've left with you dignity intact. Now please delete all of his contact details, unfriend and block on Facebook etc and delete all messages etc of his so you've no way to contact him in moments of weakness. Dolly's suggestion of joining the 30 Days No Contact Club is an excellent one. Good luck.

Wineclubsmynewhobby · 07/11/2017 16:56

Yes emmadilemma we were still in the honeymoon period if you like, it was nice talking to him and being able to share my day with someone, which is what I've missed being single for so long.

I will pop over to the other thread hopefully that will help.

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