Hi, long story short. Been dating someone for 6 months who has a 6 year old son. Things between me and partner are very good, no issues. I vaguely knew his son already so there was no “introducing or meeting” him as such, I just sort of slipped into a routine of being around even when he’s there. We went on holiday in the summer, I get on well with his son.
Understandably there has been some jealousy in his part and I do my best to let them have father/son time, not interfere but at the same time I want to bond with him. There are some things my partner does in terms of parenting that I don’t agree with, but hey that’s another story.
At first his son asked for me to do things with them, was very affectionate and seemed to want me around. Recently he has said a few things like “what time are you going home?” Or “why aren’t you working today?” As in...please go away. I get it, really do. But my partner doesn’t really talk to him about things, has never actually sat him down and said I’m his girlfriend and how does he feel. He’s seen us kiss, knows we share a bed etc but still refers to me as daddy’s friend, and talks about how one day Daddy might have a girlfriend.
I e tried talking to my partner but he sort of shrugs it off. Problem is, we are talking about moving in together in the spring/summer and I want his son to be comfortable with it all.
I’m the first girlfriend since the ex, and I want to get this right!
Should I try speaking to my partner again? Speak to the son? Drop in conversation how Daddy is my boyfriend and gauge reaction? Sometimes I think he says things because he wants one of us to say “no, she is my girlfriend silly!”, I think he’s too embarrassed to ask outright.
Help please?