I got out of a longish abusive relationship in July. He did not live with me, is not the father of my children, and we own no property etc. There are literally no reasons for contact.
Following split, I have done Freedom Programme and realised exactly how bad things were. No physical violence, but coercive control, financial and sexual abuse, emotional abuse, threatening behaviour.
He did/ is doing a bit of stalking. I contacted the police in August and they spoke to him, he continued so he was arrested, and I have just had notification that he is to be prosecuted for harassment.
I did not get a non-molestation order as I do not qualify for legal aid and couldn't afford it.
I am very upset by the whole thing - this is the first time in my life that anything like this has happened, I feel totally out of control. We live in a very small village, so "coincidental" meetings happen far more often than is plausible.
Can anyone share their experiences? I have remained pretty quiet about the whole thing, he has not, so already I am considered to be some kind of heartless drama queen for treating him so badly.
I hope someone can help. I'm feeling dreadful. I was getting through things well, with therapy and really working on self esteem, even dating. This has thrown me back several steps. Possibly even just the fact that other, official people recognise it as harassment/ abuse when so many in my life seem to think it's romantic/ he can't help it etc.
Thanks in advance. x