Help dealing with ghosting

[Sancerresanwine]

I'm not really sure if he's ghosted or if I have.

I explained in another thread about what happened... In a nutshell, we've from daily /every other day texts / calls to zero. It had been going on about two months, not long. I'd been really clear I wanted a relationship. Hed been clear that he wanted to get to know me, as he said often.

It feels so weird and unfinished to just say nothing. He is clearly not going to get in contact with me again and I can't bring myself to ask him what's going on as it's so obvious. But I miss him and I want to see him and I still fancy him. I just don't really get how someone can go from lots of involvement to none without a word.

Any advice really welcome.

Hi anxious, no he doesn't have any kids.

He clearly has form for it and I was daft to get caught up in it, I feel embarrassed and silly.

Still, best first date I've ever had which is good in itself, I'll hang on to that and make sure I don't get in touch with him again and deal with it when I bump into him

Good luck next time.

Love, its ok. this is nothing you need to be upset or worried about.

all the texting/calling/whatsapping/facetiming? MEAN NOTHING!

Unless you are seeing each other frequently - and 5 times in 8 weeks IS barely anything in terms of contact - it's NOT a serious relationship.

5 times in 8 weeks with I'll call you as the last contact, and you don't... he's given up and lost interest in waiting around, and deduced that there is very little future. He hasn't ghosted you, he's given up. he left contact in your court and you didn't call. He might even be thinking that you are wasting HIS time.

If the stories were reversed we'd suggest that 'he's just not that into you' I daresay he has found someone closer to home that will be easier to see. What use is a girlfriend or even a friend with benefits who is only available to meet every other week?

never, ever EVER think that anything online/virtual replaces anything in the development of a real relationship.

When I was dating, I'd not even consider anyone as potentially a serious prospect before 3m, so if they fell by the wayside, so be it. No loss.