Am I right to be upset by this?

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Watching a programme on TV where a slightly overweight girl was bemoaning her weight in comparison to her friends who are all extremely slim. H turns to me and says 'I wish you were as fat as that' (I am overweight but had just returned from my 4th spin class this week as I'm making a concerted effort to lose weight, he is also quite overweight) the inference being that I am WAY fatter than her.
I told him to fuck off and he started shouting at me because he couldn't understand why I would take offence.
This is a snapshot of our 'relationship' but I'm starting to doubt myself as he has a way of twisting things to make me feel like I'm at fault.

Did he mean that you're bigger than her, or did he mean he'd prefer you to be bigger?

Either way he's an arsehole but may help to know what sort of arsehole he is!

I would be upset too. Why did he feel the need to comment?

That I'm bigger than her and he wishes I wasn't. So do I but it's the fact that he felt the need to comment and then refused to accept that I had a right to be upset that has really got to me.

He doesn’t sound like a nice bloke to be honest.

You know you’re overweight, you’re exercising trying to lose some weight and improve your health, he knows this but still needed to make the comment that you’re fat and that it bothers him.

Is he being supportive of you exercising or is he just putting you down?

I bet you wish he wasn't such a bell end, and yet he persists in being one.

Oh Downtown, how I wish I had come out with that

Next time a slimmer fella is on TV say the same thing. "Oh I wish you were as buddy as that..." And see how he likes it.

*buff. Ffs phone

Knob

Ltb, get down the gym, lose loads of weight and strut your funky stuff!

I wish you had a bigger penis - guess we both disappointed then.

That's really mean - very deliberately so. I can't imagine any context that would make it ok. Is he often unkind to you?

If this is a snapshot of your relationship then you know he's a knob. Why are you wasting energy getting upset? Channel your anger and use it as a catalyst to change the fact that you are married to a knob.

Of course he understands, hypocrites always do.

you are with him why?
low self esteem?
why do you have low self esteem?
because you are with him

might not apply but if it does ring true....

Are you sure that's what he meant though as sometimes, insecurities makes us hear things are that not what is said.

He sounds awful.

Watching tv together can raise a hotbed of issues. My partner always comments on the strictly dancers and I get really hacked off. He also commented the other day on someone's awful nails on the tv I bite my nails and hate the habit but felt he was making a dig. I have to watch myself as get so sensitive I start questioning everything he comments on as a personal thing. Once he commented on someone's ugg boots. I said how do you know anything about ugg boots youre a man. He said girl in the office had them on. I remember thinking he doesn't even notice what I wear so made me feel crap. The point is we often react in different ways depending on how insecure we feel at the time so maybe he just said a one off comment .Does he constantly make digs at you?