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Birthday sadness

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ChickenMom · 02/11/2017 09:35

I've been with my DH for 17 years. He left me on Monday. Didn't tell me he was going or where. He told my DS that he would be gone for 4 days and that mummy's and daddy's don't always stay married. It's my birthday today. No card and just had an email from him saying "Have a lovely day! Lots of love" just that. It feels weird and crap to be honest. I just replied "thank you". Surely after 17 years together, things should be easier and happier than this? Any happy stories after this type of thing happening would be very much appreciated today.

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free2017 · 02/11/2017 10:40

Happy Birthday OP 🍰. I don’t have any useful advice but I hope you have a lovely day SmileFlowers

sodastreamlover · 02/11/2017 10:52

Oh Chicken that's very very tough. Can you go and see a friend today, just so you're not alone?

Juststopit · 02/11/2017 10:54

Have a wonderful birthday and remember that this years might be crap but next years might be so much better.
Spend the day with friends, do something with DS.

letsdolunch321 · 02/11/2017 11:06

Happy Birthday 🎈

Things will get better.

Walking out and not explaining is the cowards way out. What a bastard

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 02/11/2017 11:14

Happy Birthday... sounds a bit trite really given the circumstances and how you must be feeling. I'm so sorry, OP.

So he's gone, will be back in 4 days and you've just to look after your son in the meantime and await his return. I don't think it's helpful to try to guess where he is and what he's doing but you really shouldn't have to. If your marriage is ending then he owes you a conversation, not this.

He sounds horribly thoughtless and he obviously can't be trusted to behave decently towards you.

I would be using today to wallow and promise myself that my birthday next year will be different - and the remaining days until he returns to gather paperwork and make enquiries. This shouldn't be all on his terms.

altiara · 02/11/2017 11:19

Can you not recall that message and send “fuck off” instead?
Happy birthday, can you take DS out to one of those fancy ice cream parlours and have a great time getting sugared up and enjoy yourself Flowers

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ChickenMom · 02/11/2017 20:04

Thank you everyone. I've actually had a good day despite the sadness. Went to the movies with my mum then bowling after school. Eaten loads of junk food and drank loads of expensive coffees. It's been ok. I'm going to fake it till I make it xxxx

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MollyHuaCha · 02/11/2017 20:11

Cake Sorry you are going through this.

Reflexella · 02/11/2017 23:08

Good I’m glad your day turned out ok.

Happy Birthday! 🍰 x

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