Making new friends advice

[Osbornemrs]

I have struggled to make new friends where I live. I work in London so never dropped my son off or did pick up at Nursery although I would talk to a few mums at the birthday parties we would go to. But I didn’t form any lasting bonds there. Now my son has just gone to school and I try and speak to other mums to make conversation but I don’t seem to be bonding with anyone whilst I watch others becoming close friends. I have only a few friends locally but we aren’t that close. I just don’t know what I am doing wrong. Other mums seem to find it much easier to just make connections and make lots of friends. Any suggestions of what I could do? I tried fitness classes but always ended up at the back whilst all the others chatted away in their groups. I don’t understand why it’s so bloody hard!

Maybe try using MeetUp, there's lots of different groups to join and people are friendly

Thanks Hun, Where do I find meetup? Is it an app or Facebook group?

I think things might have been different if I’d had done nct classes as I think a lot of mums friendship groups were created there but I didn’t.

Its an app or you can use the website

I met some good friends on there when I moved to london. Good luck with it

Meetup is good, it is an app but there is a website too www.meetup.com/?_cookie-check=Wtqc8YNpbchLqyJJ

There's an app to find female friends called Vina but I've not used it so don't know if it's any good.

Also what about book clubs?

I think you can use Bumble for friend dates too but I haven't so don't know how good it is

I hear ya.
I moved slightly away 12 years ago now.
I still have no close friends in the area.
They just aren't my kind of people.
I could go out on my own and find lots of people that I 'know' and who I could talk to but none are my friends.
Once my DD is settled in her adult life I shall be moving back to my family.
I have some really goods friends but we just aren't close geographically.
It's a shame but there it is.
meetup.com is good so definitely have a look on there.

PTA is often a useful way of forging closer mum relationships. Spending several hours wrapping prizes, and sticking labels on them is rather bonding! After a few years of doing this and making friends, you can then quit and never return!!! How about neighbours? Sometimes you can make a good friend and if nothing else they can be a good source of information on groups or other interesting events. Good luck, I know it isn't easy to make local friends xx

I keep thinking about the pta but I am literally working all hours god sends at the moment and wanted time to socialise but I guess I could offer some time to man a stall or something at the school fair or sell cakes. They are do able things