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Lack of intimacy

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ThorsMistress · 30/10/2017 21:36

Been with DP for 3 years. We laugh everyday and we genuinely love each other.
When we first got together I suppose you could say it was a 'honeymoon' period. We enjoyed each other in the bedroom most nights.

3 years on and I'm lucky if it's once a month Sad I don't doubt he loves me nor finds me unattractive as we still have the odd cuddle. I guess we've just fallen into a rut.
How can I spice things up? I've suggested coming robbed early but he's watching the tele and falling asleep whilst I'm on here.

I didn't think it would ever be like this Sad

OP posts:
user1497997754 · 30/10/2017 21:40

Same situation as you right now.....hubby asleep....going up to bed by myself he will prob come up early tom morning.....yawn

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ThorsMistress · 30/10/2017 22:03

He's now fast asleep Sad I'm ashamed to say that it's really upsetting me. I don't have a high sex drive but once every month (if I'm lucky) just isn't enough

OP posts:
userxx · 30/10/2017 22:18

I think it's time you had a talk with your partner, you can't carry on like this.

Ginandpanic · 30/10/2017 22:30

There are lots of threads like this and it rarely seems to get better. I'm in the same situation (After 25 years) and despite discussing it and explaining I can't live like this, nothing changes. Honestly, it's not what you want to hear I'm sure, but I'd start thinking about an exit strategy if it's like that after 3 years.

Aquamarine1029 · 30/10/2017 23:00

If you can't talk openly about sex, the rest of your relationship is smoke and mirrors. Talk to him.

BackInTheRoom · 31/10/2017 07:17

John Gottman, Google his background.

www.gottman.com/blog/3-reasons-stress-is-affecting-your-sex-drive-and-what-to-do-about-it/

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