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DH going on about DS being gay

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wholenut · 14/04/2007 00:11

My husband is obsessed with the idea that our DS (10) is gay, he says he's concerned as he never shows any interest in women, I say "thats because he's 10, not 16". Am I right in thinking he's worrying about this too soon?

He turns the music channels on and waits for someone like Britney or shakira to come on and then sits there studying our DS to judge his reaction .

I think he's going to start stressing DS out, do boys even show and interest at this age?? he said when he was his age he started to fancy women and by the age of 12 he had posters up etc. Is he being pathetic?

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Carmenere · 14/04/2007 00:12

Yes he is being pathetic

Carmenere · 14/04/2007 00:13

Even if your ds had started to notice girls he is probably not going to want to leer at them in front of his dad.

Mercy · 14/04/2007 00:14

yes, he is, sorry.

Girls get 'romantic' about boys earlier - hence boy bands.

FairyEdwards · 14/04/2007 00:14

bit wierd. Would he be really upset if he was gay?

madamez · 14/04/2007 00:16

FFS let your DS develop into the person he is going to be by himself. It DOESN"T MATTER if he is gay. Don't make the poor boy miserable or make him think he has somethign to prove (which might mean he tries to demonstrate how "not gay" he is by abusing girls/beating up gay people/joining the army...

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wholenut · 14/04/2007 00:17

He says he wouldnt be that upset but I think he would, he always says to DS "do you think she's pretty?" etc and DS always says no, the only time he's said yes was about that indian girl from big brother. He gets all bashful about a girl at school too, tries to hide a smile everytime her name is mentioned and dumps whoever he's playing with as soon as she asks him to go and play with her...but that isnt enough for DH, he wants to leering over women on tv for some mad reason

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FairyEdwards · 14/04/2007 00:26

you need to tell your partner to leave your son alone before he does some damage.

Londonmamma · 14/04/2007 00:27

Your poor DS. I'm sorry to say but that's really mean and intrusive of your DH. These are his own hang-ups, nothing to do with your boy. I have a ten year old DS and this has upset me

Mercy · 14/04/2007 00:30

Agree with Londonmamma, it's not your ds who is wrong - your dh seems to have a big problem.

Next question, how do you deal with it? I don't know tbh

ChelseaDagger · 14/04/2007 00:32

I think your DH is being a bit rotten here. He's going to give the boy a complex.

KerryMum · 14/04/2007 00:36

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Londonmamma · 14/04/2007 00:37

Could you show this thread to your DH??

madamez · 14/04/2007 00:42

Your DH may have issues about gayness. Those issues are his problem, no one else's.Let yoru DS be himself no matter what that self is.

kimi · 14/04/2007 00:53

Wholenut, ask your DH what he would do if your son brought home a pregnant girlfriend age 12?

Also point out if your son turns out gay, his belt will always match his shoes and he will always love his mother.

Last of all point out he is a 10 year old child and should be playing football and with lego, not trying to get a leg over, then ask your hubby if he needs to shear any of his gay feelings with you.
He will shut up I promise.

moondog · 14/04/2007 01:21

wholenut,your dh sounds like a nutter.
Tell him to stop it before he does him some serious damage.

kimi · 14/04/2007 01:39

Wholenut my late fil called DS2 gay and I just sad well if he is then in a few years time I get to march gay pride with him! Fil shut up.

Brandyanddietcoke · 14/04/2007 19:29

"Also point out if your son turns out gay, his belt will always match his shoes and he will always love his mother"

Hilarious.... .

linjasmom · 14/04/2007 22:25

Tell your dh to get a grip! Most boys that age HATE girls. If he goes on about that, he could do serious damage to ds. Not because he could become gay (some of our best friends are gay), but because of the pressure. Good luck!

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